Paula's golden "Child Whisperer" touch

Remember that wonderful movie "The Horse Whisperer"? Through his intuitiveness he was able to perceive the problems of the horse and correct it - reaching into it's soul...

With children you are able to do the same (See research article "Biology is not a destiny". Also look into "A child's temperament" on the net).

I believe it's important to reassure children, to make them feel wanted and to know that there are people that love them. Through this method, I show parents how to discourage children from misbehaving and keep a smile on their faces. Remember you are the parent. So many people ask children what they want to do and the choices they want to make when they are clearly not ready to.

It is vital the children know that you are stronger than they are, don't try to be their friend or their equal. Set boundaries that children will feel safe and secure in. Set the boundaries, but within that make sure there is fun and laughter. When it is time to go to bed, that should be itĄ­no arguments or crying. Children without boundaries are lost and unhappy.

Give Children your FULL attention, even if it's for half an hour or an hour a day. Ask them how their day was in detail. Encourage them to talk about their dreams and desires. Don't buy children too much - especially if you're doing it because of guilt. Often children get too much of what they want and are never satisfied, there are so many things that you can do with children that are special and don't cost anything. Teach the children that they are part of the family unit. As such, they need to help pull their weight and help their parents, such as a few household duties to do. Think about downsizing your lifestyle to enjoy being a parent more. People don't realise how much joy can come from living a